So what are some toxic habits to get rid of to be happier?
One toxic habit that I will be getting rid of this year is not prioritizing my mental health. I have a nasty habit of putting everything else at the top of my priority list and unfortunately, I end up experiencing burnout, anxiety, and sometimes even depression as a result.
If you are a woman trying to grow and become the best version of yourself possible, there’s no doubt that you will have a few toxic habits that you need to shave off.
Without rambling on, here are 10 toxic habits you need to get rid of so you can be happy this year.
Toxic Habits To Get Rid Of To Be Happier
1. Not eating a healthy diet
They say you are what you eat. So if that’s true and all you eat is junk food, then guess what that means? You’re junk. Ew! That does not have a nice ring to it, does it?
Seriously though. Eating a healthy diet is an important part of taking care of yourself. You cannot say you love yourself and not take proper care of yourself. This means being mindful of what you eat.
No, you do not have to be radical and go full vegan. But you can have everything in moderation. A healthy diet is not void of sweets, snacks, and the occasional “junk food”. It simply has these things in moderation.
Here’s an example of what a healthy meal plan looks like:
Naturally, you’ll need to make adjustments according to what fits your needs. This is something that will take a little bit of time to adjust to but if you make it a priority and commit to adjusting over time, you can make the lifestyle change and be on the road to a healthier diet.
2. Neglecting self-care
Seriously, what is it with women and neglecting self care? We give so much of ourselves to others and so little of ourselves…to ourselves. It’s crazy! I know!
Why is it so hard for us to realize that without proper self care we are no good to anyone else?
“You cannot pour from an empty cup”– Unknown
Make the commitment to yourself that this will be the year you take your self care more seriously.
Self care is not just about burning sage, taking bubble baths, and lighting scented candles though. While those are great, there is more to self care than that.
Self care means setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Self care means spending time alone to rejuvenate yourself.
Self care means eating healthy. Self care means exercising. It means living a healthy lifestyle, avoiding negativity and drama. It means surrounding yourself with positive people, being mindful of the thoughts you let enter your mind.
Self care means connecting with God and deepening your spirituality. It also means being mindful of your spending and taking care of your financial health. Self care means reading more and not feeding your mind with junk.
Simply put, if you want to know how to really practice self care in its truest form, imagine your ideal self. Imagine the woman you want to become in life. Everything about her. How she dresses, shows up in the world, walks, talks, carries herself. Her eating habits, her habits in general. Her relationships with herself and everyone else. Then take a look at your current lifestyle.
Work on every area that leaves much to be desired. That is self care.
3. Not exercising
I talked about eating healthy so naturally, I have to talk about exercise. Why do people hate exercise so much? Our bodies are designed to move so why have people become so lazy that they would rather develop health issues and reduce their life expectancy than to just move their bodies?
Seriously ladies. Exercise is not only going to the gym for one hour a day and lifting weights. Exercise is simply getting up and being active every day. Go for a 30-minute walk. Take the stairs. Dance while doing your chores around the house. Ride a bicycle. Play a sport. Take your kids to the park and actually play with them instead of sitting on your phone watching them play.
It’s really not that difficult to get more exercise in your day. It’s a matter of priority and changing the way you view exercise.
Don’t hold yourself to unrealistic expectations. You don’t have to go on a 10k-steps-a-day walk to get 10k steps in your day. You just have to move more. If you have a fitness watch that’s great, you can monitor your daily activity. If you do not have a fitness tracker you can still just move.
4. Avoiding time with loved ones
Listen, as much as it has become trendy for people to “do it alone” and “stay paranoid” and “rely on no one but themselves”, the truth of the matter is that humans are social creatures. We need people. That has always been and it will always be.
The relationships you have with your loved ones are the most important bonds you can form and foster. Keep in mind, “loved ones” doesn’t only mean blood relatives. Loved ones can also mean friendships you form over the years.
One pattern that I have noticed over the years is that people have difficulty setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with the people in their lives and as a result of that weakness, they resort to simply avoiding people. That is not healthy and it does not help you to improve. It simply means you avoid the weakness but sooner or later it will resurface.
There are many studies that show that spending time together with family and loved ones has many benefits: for your physical and mental health so don’t just take my word for it.
5. Avoiding accountability for your actions
One of my biggest pet peeves is people who lack accountability. These people tend to live in victimhood. Everything is always someone else’s fault. Let’s leave that in 2021.
Here’s the problem with the victimhood mindset, it completely removes your ability to have any control over your life. You become a permanent passenger in your own life.
Why would you want that? There is no happiness to be found in that. Read my article on How To Be A Happier Woman for more tips on how to feel at peace in your life.
One of the best habits to foster in 2022 is the habit of accountability. No, this doesn’t mean you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong in your life. Instead, what it means is that you are able to analyze situations to see what you could have done differently so you can achieve better results in the future.
Toxic Habits You Should Get Rid Of To Improve Your Quality Of Life
6. Not speaking up for yourself
We are not going into the new year being afraid to speak up for ourselves. Let’s just put that out into the universe. 2022 is speak-up-for-myself year.
Speaking up for yourself is not about being toxic and unpleasant to people just for the sake of it. Speaking up for yourself simply means making sure your voice is heard. It simply means enforcing your healthy boundaries.
Speaking up for yourself means saying no when you are being asked to overextend yourself in a way that is unhealthy. It means letting your voice be heard in your relationships instead of simply expecting the other person to “know”.
This might mean stepping out of your comfort zone a little bit if it’s not something you’re used to but when you get in the habit of it, trust me, it’s well worth it. Read Why It’s So Hard To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone And What To Do About It.
7. Toxic positivity
Not quite sure what toxic positivity is and if you’re guilty of it? Let me illustrate:
A friend of yours loses her job and confides in you that she is distraught about it. She’s scared and feels a bit hopeless because she has bills to pay and debt to repay. How would you respond to that situation?
- Cheer up girl. You got this! Don’t let this get you down. I believe in you! They didn’t deserve you anyway.
- Oh shoot! I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t know what I’d do if I were in your shoes. You must be freaking out right now. Is there anything I can do to help?
If you chose A, you are responding with toxic positivity. Toxic positivity is when you dismiss negative emotions and instead respond to distress with false reassurances. While it may seem like it’s coming from a positive place, it’s actually quite shallow, toxic and dismissive of the other person’s true feelings.
Instead of offering a “you got this”, try offering a “how can I help?”. Naturally, there will be moments when you can’t really help the person and you are still completely responsible for observing your own healthy boundaries, but try to listen from a place of empathy.
8. Toxic self-love
I am so over all the toxic self love I see on social media these days. People seem to have their heads stuck so far up their assess that all they can see is their own sh*t!
Like seriously. This idea that you “know your worth” so much that you will not make an effort to form or keep relationships because apparently if it doesn’t happen naturally it was not meant for you and your wokeness? Bullsh*t!
Relationships don’t happen naturally. You have to work on them to make them healthy and functional. This means there will be times when it’s uncomfortable for the people in the relationship, but it’s those uncomfortable moments when handled in a healthy way, that strengthen the bond.
And this goes for ALL your relationships: friendships, intimate, family, work, or otherwise. Even the relationship with yourself.
People have become such arrogant narcissists these days and it makes me sick. Everyone is afraid to get hurt so they go around acting detached and void of emotions.
Everyone thinks everyone else needs to accept them the way they are but that is not true. While it is important to accept yourself for who you are, this does not mean everyone else needs to accept your toxicity. And accepting yourself does not in any way mean you stop improving yourself. It simply means you accept that you have these flaws and imperfections so you can begin to lovingly work on being the best possible you.
9. Not practicing gratitude
If you are not grateful for what you have now, what makes you think you’ll be happy with more? You won’t.
The key to a happy and fulfilling life is found in practicing gratitude. You’ve heard the saying “money can’t buy happiness” and that is so true. Happiness cannot be purchased in a store.
Money is simply a tool that can be used to unlock doors of opportunity. It’s a reward for your efforts but more will not make you happy if you lack the ability to express gratitude in your daily life. So while you work on securing that bag, be sure to practice gratitude along the way.
The benefits of practicing gratitude are endless but don’t just take my word for it.
- The Benefits of Gratitude and How to Get Started,
- 7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-Round, and
- Giving thanks can make you happier
Learn how to stop comparing yourself to others and learn to be grateful. Gratitude does not mean you settle for mediocrity. It does not mean you don’t grow and slay your goals in life. It simply means you are able to find contentment in every step of your journey.
10. Feeding your mind with bs (drama in daily life, drama in the media)
Your reality is a result of how you perceive the world. How you perceive the world is a result of what you feed your mind.
Do a self-assessment right now. How often do you consume negative continent? How often do you consume positive content? How often do you start drama in your daily life? How often do you associate with people who start drama?
Do you like getting the scoop on others? Are you up to date with the latest celebrity gossip? How much social media do you consume daily? Pay attention to how often and how long you scroll on social media.
If you are feeding your mind junk your life will be junk.
I also want you to think of the kind of friends you surround yourself with. Are they positive influences in your life? Do they feed your mind with positivity and growth or do they fill your mind with horse manure?
Start upgrading your mind by reading this article: How to upgrade your mindset for a better life
The fact of the matter is that your habits will shape your reality and the results you get out of life. It is on you to decide what habits will most likely get you the results you want in life and to foster those habits.
It is also on you to evaluate your current habits and decide which ones you need to get rid of. Which ones hold you back? Which ones will hinder your success?
Over to you
What habits would you like to add to this list? Did I miss any toxic habits to get rid of to be happier? Share in the comments below.
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